January 2018 - Enigma

Friday, 19 January 2018

Pakistan: A Country Failing Its Children.


Zainab Ansari is the name of a 7 year old Pakistani girl who lived in the Kasur district of Punjab. As she was on her way to Quran recital classes she was abducted, raped and brutally murdered. Once the killer was done with her, her body was disposed of amongst a rubbish heap next to a garbage can.

As the story was released, I sat in a daze of so many thoughts and feelings running through me. Anger, disgust, grief, horror and heartbreak. I was completely torn as social media was flooded with support alongside the hashtag #JusticeForZainab. Solidarity came through via Pakistani politicians and celebrities alike.


Imran Khan, head of the PTI party in Pakistan tweeted a video message condemning the crime and urged for action in finding the killer. I ask myself how are such heinous crimes so prevalent in a country like Pakistan? Why has our judicial system failed Zainab and many before her? Why are individuals so caught up in political point scoring, rather than dealing with the issue at hand? Zainab is now just another number, the eighth girl to have been killed in the past year in the Kasur region. 

Kasur: Hub of child sexual abuse scandals since 2006

When Zainab was murdered, protests began in the streets of Kasur. Police officials came under fire for shooting men amongst the marches. I saw tweets on my timeline, asking why are people rioting? As if a rape of a young girl shouldn't be enough to cause anger, the reason being however is people are fed up of the inaction due to Kasur's sordid history of a paedophile ring extorting relatives of children sexually abused, since 2006. 

Villagers of the district spoke out at the time. It had emerged that there is a dominant family who have blackmailed children into performing sexual acts, which they recorded and sold on to pornography sites.

In a fact finding report by the Human Rights Commission of Pakistan it was found the crimes were concealed as the perpetrators threatened families to release videos of their children being raped and performing sexual acts under force. They were then forced to pay up or else the videos would be released. 

More than 300 children from 2006 through to 2015 were involved in this disgusting and vile crime. Hundreds upon hundreds of video clips circulated at the time, members of the public came forward to report incidents and yet every single child was failed by a corrupt and unjust system. The bureaucracies turned the other eye and colluded with the known criminals to protect their identities and of course, for money. 

2016 finally saw two suspects sentenced to life imprisonment over their role in the pedophilia ring of Village Hussain KhanWala, Kasur.

2017

In the last six months, seven other girls have been sexually assaulted in the Punjab region. An investigation is now underway to see if they are all connected.

I feel disheartened at how Pakistan has failed their children. A country where I too have family, and little cousins the same age as Zainab. A country rife with corruption, where parties are too busy hurling accusations at each other in order to get ahead in the political race.

Zainab's parents were performing Umrah (a religious pilgrimage) whilst this happened to her. She was living with her aunt, and thought she was safe walking a short minute to her religious classes. Which she should have been.

The ONLY person to be blamed for this, is the vile creature who committed the crime. No one else. It is a sorry state of affairs when women still find a way to blame anyone else other than the rapist. Which is what I found in some of the comments section when reports were released about Zainab. My heart breaks for her family, and for every other vulnerable child out there who was taken advantage of.

S.K.

Tuesday, 16 January 2018

Asian Societal Pressures.

"No matter how much I accomplish, how independent I become or how much I achieve of my own goals - society will always make me feel alone. Isolated to the point where I think, was this all done in vain? Our community is such that if a girl is not married by 26 - we have nothing to hold our heads high for."

This is an unfortunate but very real truth for young women in the South Asian community of today. Asian societal pressures for young girls to succumb to marriages, children and making a home like the elders that came before them. I presume for most of us we have unknowingly had the idea of marriage implanted within us from a young age.

Yet, generations before us forget that they were not urged to pursue an education (for most, or rather if they were then it was not with great importance) or encouraged to establish themselves with a suitable career. In our chase for lucrative positions we are expected to get there smooth sailing, be steady on our two feet and then? Then we are to get married and live happily ever after of course.

There will be falls, hinderances and mistakes in order to prepare us. To find ourselves. It is ok to become lost or take a few wrong turns on your path to get to where you want to be. Self-love also needs to be nurtured. It is perfectly fine to take your time, and focus on you and you alone without having to justify why you are still single.

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We are young women who are hungry for all the opportunities that arise, eager to grab and utilise the choices available throughout our lives. We should be allowed to do so. However at the same time, who also feels the impending anxiety our mothers are on the brink of when Aunty Ji from some distantly related family asks when you're getting married?

Respect. Honour. Family values. "What will others think?" Then theres the comments on age. When you hit the quarter of a century mark, you will be inundated with questions on why you haven't married or settled for anyone yet. Who else had their whole life planned by the time they were 25? Yet here we are, still making tough life decisions like what new Netflix show we should binge watch. (Peaky Blinders, for anyone who hasn't yet)

It seems as you get older, everyone starts getting caught up in this cycle of marriage prospects and stressing about time going by. Do not tire yourself out trying to perfect a round roti (chapatti) or making exceptional desi chai (tea) fit for the Queen. Humour aside, we need to learn that our main goal in life is not to get married. Marriage, contrary to the typical and ever so popular belief does not define us. Yes it can be difficult to tame that silent yet ferociously loud fear in your mind, but remember that everyone is on their own journey. Everything will only fall into place when the time is right.

These expectations can lead to be very testing on young women's mindsets. Severe anxiety over not being settled and married with kids by a certain age is not healthy. Let us not cast young girls aside who are only just stepping into the real world by labelling them as failures, arrogant, selfish, and disrespectful for not saying yes to a rishta (potential husband) via a picture.

Is no one tired of the stories we hear, from various scenarios of rushed marriages due to the parents pressure, for the individual to then endure years of being unhappy or for it ending in quick divorce? Are parents not willing to save that anguish for their children and wait until they are truly happy? I have yet to come across anyone who finds "settling for someone" truly appealing.

It constantly surrounds us too, the idea of finding "the one" even if it's not our family or the next door Aunty. Social media, where someone is updating an engagement status every other day. The Bollywood industry, who love to rinse the idea of exaggerated love stories film after film. Then we have Hollywood - the biggest illusion of them all. The literary world thrives upon stories dedicated to falling in love and finding your soulmate.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being married, having kids and taking care of your home. Equally, there is nothing wrong with not being married, not having kids and not being settled.

S.K.

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